Ok so I'm getting really bad at keeping this blog up to date, so here's my latest contribution,
I hate Christmas... I know that makes me sound all Bah Humbug but its true. I can't stand how busy everywhere is, the competing demands and ultimately (and selfishly) I can't bare that for a week I have to spend time with people who don't accept who I am or acknowledge my relationship with my wife.
We have been together 8 years this year and yet my parents still send us separate Christmas cards, I know this is only a little thing but it really bugs me and call it petty, but the more they do this the more I make sure my wife's name is on every gift and card heading their way, even if its something from just me. Don't get me wrong, they have made progress and accepted the fact if we don't both attend festive meals then neither of us do and my mum makes a huge effort for the whole season, but it all still feels fake. My grandad recently had a very serious health scare and is pretty lucky to still be with us this year. He and my wife get on really well and I can't bare to think about what life would be like without him.
Our long term plan is to move further north and start a family and although this is for various reasons the idea that Christmas will be simplified just by geography still excites me. Just the thought of being able to have Christmas in our own home, doing completely what we want and not having to travel, being able to invite both families to us and passing back the decision and the guilt of attendance! I know this scenario is far from uncommon in all relationships but just thought I'd share my Bah Humbug outlook.
To all who have taken the time to read my blog or the feature on RUComingOut.com, thank you! I hope you have enjoyed what I have had to say, have a happy festive period and I hope 2014 bring you happiness, peace and love, oh and the financial stability you need.
Ni :o)
